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Covering your tracks and contacts

For advice on how to cover your tracks online visit the Women's Aid website. For help and advice about domestic abuse services .In emergencies dial 999

Is domestic abuse something which concerns you or maybe a friend or someone closer to home?

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Domestic Abuse can impact on many people’s lives, with up to 1 in 4 women and 1 in 6 men being affected by one of the many forms of domestic abuse. However, domestic abuse is also referred to as a hidden crime as it is believed that only 1 in 5 incidents are reported to the police as victims are often fearful of reporting what is happening to them, they rarely even tell family and friends.

We therefore want to encourage everyone whether a victim, witness or concerned about someone, to speak out and help to reduce domestic abuse.  

What is domestic abuse?

Domestic abuse is the abuse of one partner within an intimate or family relationship. It is the repeated physical, psychological, sexual or financial abuse by a person known to you, usually your partner or ex-partner or family member.

It is one person exerting systematic abusive power and control over another.

Who does it affect?

It can be experienced by women and men, whatever their race, age, class, colour, ability, religion or sexuality.

It can happen in all kinds of relationships: heterosexual, lesbian, gay, bisexual and transgender.

When does it happen?

Abuse can begin at any stage of the relationship and may continue after the relationship has ended.

Domestic abuse is rarely a one-off incident. Incidents generally become more frequent and severe over time.

Are you a victim?

Does your partner:

  • Make you afraid by using looks, actions and gestures like smashing things, destroying property or displaying weapons?
  • Act extremely jealous of others who pay attention to you, or use jealousy to justify his/her actions?
  • Control your finances, behaviour and even with whom you socialise?
  • Threaten to kill you or commit suicide?
  • Make all the decisions?
  • Stop you from seeing or talking to friends, your family or limits outside involvement with others?
  • Act like the abuse is no big deal and that it's your fault?
  • Deny that he/she is being abusive or violent?
  • Put you down in front of other people, humiliates you or plays mind games and makes you feel as if you are going mad?
  • Prevent you from getting or keeping a job?
  • Takes your money or does not let you know about or have access to the family income?
  • Threatens to take away the children?
  • Threatens to kill the pets?

Do you:

  • Become quiet when he/she is around and feel afraid of making him/her angry?
  • Cancel plans at the last minute?
  • Stop seeing your friends and family members and become more and more isolated?
  • Find yourself explaining bruises to family or friends?
  • Wear clothing to hide physical injury?

If you answered 'yes' to any of these questions you may be involved in a relationship that is physically, emotionally, psychologically or sexually abusive.

What can I do about it?

Everyone has the right to be safe in their own home and to live free from abuse, threat and fear. There are things you can do to change your life. You can choose what the best and safest option for you is.

Cyber stalking, make sure it couldn’t happen to you

Domestic abuse is a crime and must be stopped.

From mobile phones to social networking sites such as Facebook, technology has become part of the way we live our lives. Although there are many benefits to the way we may choose to communicate with each other and seek information, these changes are increasingly putting people at risk of stalking and abuse. For further information on what cyber stalking is and how you can help to keep yourself safe please read the documents below.

Everything you do online leaves a trace

Domestic abuse documents

PDFNo excuse for abuse campaign poster No excuse for abuse - campaign poster 316kb

PDFNo excuse for abuse - Male advice No excuse for abuse - Male advice 186kb

PDFDomestic abuse service user useful contacts leaflet Service user useful contacts leaflet 481kb

PDFDomestic abuse A - Z practioner directory A - Z practioner directory (this document is for professionals only) 143kb

PDFDomestic abuse bulletin 2007-2009 Domestic abuse bulletin 2007-2009 231kb

PDFWiltshire's Young People Survey - exploring attitudes and views of domestic abus in relationships - July 2009 Wiltshire's Young People Survey - exploring attitudes and views of domestic abuse in relationships - July 2009 62kb

PDFMARAC service users explanatory booklet MARAC service users explanatory booklet 399kb

PDFWiltshire Domestic Abuse Strategy Wiltshire Domestic Abuse Strategy 94kb

PDFHM Government - Together we can end violence against women and girls: A strategy HM Government - Together we can end violence against women and girls: A Strategy 1mb

PDFDomestic abuse awareness for young people - Is this love? leaflet Domestic abuse awareness for young people - Is this love? leaflet 632kb

PDFAbuse in relationships Abuse in relationships 472kb

PDFParent's and carer's guide to violence
and abuse in teenage relationships Parent's and carer's guide to violence and abuse in teenage relationships 486kb

Advice on how to cover your tracks online Women's Aid website.

Domestic abuse – support services

Locally in Wiltshire

Organisation Contact details What they do
NSPCC Ashdown Family Centre Email: ashdown@nspcc.org.uk
Tel: 01980 846 164
NSPCC Calne Family Centre
Tel: 01249 813 270
 
Relate Mid Wiltshire
2 Prospect Place
Trowbridge
BA14 8QA
Web: www.relatemidwiltshire.co.uk
Tel: 01225 350010
Appointments: 0300 003 1781
An independent charity which works to help people achieve personal changes which enable them to engage in fulfilling relationships for the benefit of themselves, their family and society, working with individuals to either obtain help to change abusive behaviour or to encourage a move towards safety.
Counselling is available to individuals, couples, families, children and young people (from the age of 7).
Relate Salisbury Web: www.relate.org.uk
Tel: 0844 826 1788 / 01305 262 285
 
New Swindon Sanctuary
Sexual Assault Referral Centre
Web: www.swindonsanctuary.co.uk
Tel: 0808 1680024 (24 hours)
 
Splitz Support Service Web: www.splitz.org
Tel: 01225 777724
Splitz is an independent charity established in 1989. We mend lives. We work free of charge with victims, children and perpetrators of domestic abuse. We work to encourage healthy relationships. We do this by offering one-to-one support for adult victims of abuse (Paloma Project), support services for young people who have witnessed abuse (Young People’s Support Service); a scheme offering befriending and emotional support (Buddy Scheme); and a voluntary programme for male perpetrators of domestic abuse to help change their harmful behaviour (Turnaround Programme).
Victim Support Wiltshire Web: www.victimsupport.org.uk
Tel: 01380 738888
 
Wiltshire Police Web: www.wiltshire.police.uk
Tel: 101
 
Swindon and Wiltshire's Sexual
Assault referral Centre
Web:www.swindonsanctuary.co.uk
24 hour helpline - 0808 168 0024
 

Nationally

Organisation Contact details
Action on Elder Abuse                                                                Web: www.elderabuse.org.uk
Tel: 0808 808 8141
Barnardo’s Web: www.barnardos.org.uk
Tel: 020 8550 8822
Broken Rainbow UK Web: www.brokenrainbow.org.uk
Tel: 0300 999 5428
Men’s Advice Line (MALE) Web: www.mensadviceline.org.uk
Tel: 0808 801 0327
National Centre for Domestic Violence (NCDV) Web: www.ncdv.org.uk
Tel: 0844 8044 999 (Helpline, 24-hours)
For help text 'NCDV' to 60777 Available to everybody Free legal advice Injunctions within 24 hours Completely confidential Legal aid available
National Domestic Abuse 24hr Helpline (Women’s Aid)

Web: www.womensaid.org.uk

Tel: 0808 2000 247

National Victim Support Web: www.victimsupport.org.uk
Tel: 0845 30 30 900

NSPCC - Childline

NSPCC - Child protection helpline

Web: www.nspcc.org.uk
Tel: 0800 1111 / 0808 800 5000
Refuge Web: www.refuge.org.uk
Tel: 0808 200 0247 (Helpline, 24-hours)
RESPECT Web:·www.respect.gov.uk
Tel: 0845 122 8609
Samaritans Web: www.samaritans.org
Tel: 08457 90 90 90

In an emergency dial 999

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Wiltshire Community Safety Partnership
Safer Communities and Licensing
Public Protection Service
Wiltshire Council
County Hall
Bythesea Road
Trowbridge
Wiltshire
BA14 8JD


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