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The magic ratio: for parents

How many positive moments does it take to balance each negative moment?

Even the happiest couples have negative moments. We snap and criticise. We shout and blame. What would it take to balance these out?

What you can do to get on better

Relationship experts tell us that for every one negative moment, you need five positive moments.

Negative moments could be:

  • criticising
  • trying to win
  • blaming
  • name-calling
  • sneering
  • sarcasm
  • shouting
  • being defensive
  • talking over each other

Positive moments could be:

  • laughing together
  • supporting each other
  • showing interest
  • listening
  • being grateful
  • thoughtful gifts
  • hugs
  • sharing
  • chatting

Now start practising with the magic ratio - think about your relationship:

  • what positive things could you do for each other?
  • what can you do to show that you care?

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